Monday, July 15, 2019

Eleven years, and signing off


Here we are ... 11 years since I (Chris) was in the USA and Ben told me lightheartedly in an email that the little lump on his leg might be cancer. And here, in this blog, the rest of that history is told.

As Lindy said in an earlier post, we think that it is time to close the blog. However, it remains as testimony to Ben and also to the many people who have walked this road with us in lesser or greater ways. We thank you so much for your care.

Below are Ben's nephews. The older ones talk about Ben ... Recently Henry has recounted dreams of Ben. In one of Henry's dreams, Ben did 10 somersaults and God was laughing. We look forward to the day when the pain and sorrows fade away and we can all laugh along together.

Ben's four nephews: Ben and Will, Henry and Liam
Of course, signing off on this blog is not about "moving on"; it is not about forgetting Ben; it is not saying things are all better, or even that "time has healed us". Things will never be the same, in so many ways; and we have been changed. Such is life really; sooner or later and in greater or lesser degrees, it throws us curved balls.

So, to use the old (Scottish) phrase, "we'll meet you in the morning Ben".

Until then, we send our deep gratitude to all who have shared the journey so far with us. We send our wishes that somehow this blog will have enriched your life.

Chris and Lindy

The boys at Los Cocos, Argentina, Jan. 2000. Ben with Matt, Tim, Andy, Pete.

14 comments:

  1. Pete MulherinJuly 15, 2019 at 1:13 PM

    CSB

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  2. AnonymousJuly 15, 2019 at 2:12 PM

    CSB

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  3. phillingyouinJuly 15, 2019 at 3:37 PM

    Love the fact his nephews are dreaming about him. CSB. Kris x

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  4. EmilyJuly 15, 2019 at 4:17 PM

    It's been an absolute privilege to be able to read your precious, honest insights along the way. Thank you both so much opening your hearts, sharing from your wisdom and experience, and helping us to understand your grief a tiny bit better from afar. My heart has always ached for you both and your other sons. Thank you for your support and encouragement along our rocky road too.

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  5. UnknownJuly 15, 2019 at 4:24 PM

    Every good thing must come to an end.

    Except for eternity.

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  6. MegJuly 15, 2019 at 6:17 PM

    Like his brothers, I loved Ben often from a long way away. The blog was a treasured way of connecting not only with Ben, but with the rest of his loved ones. I can imagine his embarrassment at this, but love you Ben, and miss you. Love to you all.

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  7. IanJuly 15, 2019 at 7:11 PM

    Fond memories of a lively and engaging young man!

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  8. JillJuly 15, 2019 at 7:37 PM

    CSB

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  9. SarahJuly 15, 2019 at 7:57 PM

    So sweet to hear that Henry dreams of Ben ��

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  10. Matthias GalléJuly 15, 2019 at 9:47 PM

    Thank you for sharing your experience, which was wisdom for others as well

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  11. Layla RiveraJuly 16, 2019 at 11:06 AM

    Muchas gracias familia por el ejemplo que dieron con cada post, comentario y acción! Los amo!! Siguen en mi corazón!!

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  12. Cecilia ZandrinoJuly 16, 2019 at 6:17 PM

    "we don't move on from grief, we move forward with it" Thank-you for letting us witness and be a little part of the past 11 years. My love to the whole family. Cecilia Zandrino.

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  13. ElizabethJuly 17, 2019 at 3:07 PM

    Thanks, Mulherins, for sharing so much of yourselves with us all.

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  14. Gordon ChengJuly 31, 2019 at 5:36 PM

    Until eternity reunites.

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