The following thoughts were inspired by this photo of Ben and Matt, which Pete put on the last page of a book he compiled for us for Christmas.
Since December 2008, many people have said that Ben lived an authentic life.
In looking up authentic I read that it can mean emotionally appropriate, significant, purposeful, responsible, reliable and genuine.
I remember that—
Ben was opinionated and competitive, yet kind and compassionate.
He drove his youth leaders and teachers mad with his energy and occasional disregard for authority, but would then surprise them by his ready apology when he believed he had behaved badly.
He could be rough and impatient with his brothers and yet they all knew he would be there for them.
A young bloke who disliked Ben’s arrogant manner, changed his opinion when Ben asked him conversationally one day, ‘You don’t like me much do you?’
A middle-aged man who Ben had had disagreements with, fell into serious depression. This man was amazed and encouraged when Ben visited him in hospital.
More than one friend with a troubling problem, sought Ben out, knowing he would listen, be unfazed by anything they might say, and would offer advice only if wanted.
Throughout his short, imperfect, adventurous, challenging life I remember he was quick to speak (and sometimes offend) but equally quick to ask forgiveness and to forgive.An authentic life? Yes, I think so.
Lindy
